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The Big Gay List of NYC Pride Month Events 2025

Hi gay. It’s officially Pride season and what better way to kick off the summer than by turning up the volume on queer joy. I still feel new to New York City, and so every year I promise myself I’m going to celebrate our month more than I did the year before. TBH, it can be overwhelming with the amount of events going on. So, to make the most of Pride 2025, I’m getting seriously prepared this year.  

From raving dance floors to reflective exhibits, here’s a curated list of the best NYC Pride month events to celebrate, connect, and show up all month long.


🌈 The Main Event(s)

Get into the celebratory mood with these festivals, marches, and markets happening in NYC.

New Queens Pride

  • June 1, 2025
  • 12pm
  • 37th Avenue in Jackson Heights

The Wonder Market: Pride at Carroll Hall

  • June 12, 2025
  • 7:30pm
  • Carroll Hall

Brooklyn Pride Street Festival

  • June 14, 2025
  • 11am
  • 5th Avenue between Union and 9th Street

Brooklyn Pride Comic Book Fair

  • June 21, 2025
  • 12pm-6pm
  • Brooklyn Pride Center

Queer Soup Night x Pride Night at Brooklyn Botanic Garden

  • June 25, 2025
  • 6pm-8:30pm
  • Brooklyn Botanic Garden

NYC Pride March

  • June 29, 2025
  • 11am

NYC PrideFest

  • June 29, 2025
  • 11am
  • Greenwich Village

Queer Liberation March

  • June 29, 2025
  • 11am
  • ​NYC AIDS Memorial Park at St. Vincent’s Triangle

🪩 party 4 u

From rooftop raves to sweaty basements—here’s where to dance, flirt, and serve all month long.

Dirty Circus Variety Show: Pride Edition

  • June 6, 2025
  • 6:30pm
  • House of Yes

Bailamos Juntos – Pride Fundraiser

  • June 7, 2025
  • 6pm
  • Sound Mind Center

Night at the Museum: Pride

  • June 13, 2025
  • 8pm-12am
  • MoMA PS1

Pride Night at the Museum

  • June 13, 2025
  • 7pm-10pm
  • Gilder Center for Science, Education, and Innovation

Dyke Beer: Pride Party

  • June 13, 2025
  • 7pm
  • Brooklyn Art Haus

The Library After Hours: Pride

  • June 13, 2025
  • 7:30pm-11pm
  • Stephen A. Schwarzman Building

Pride Above the Park 2025

  • June 18, 2025
  • 6pm
  • The Rooftop at Deutsche Bank Center

It’s Giving Brunch: NYC Pride Drag Fundraiser

  • June 21, 2025 
  • 11am
  • Stella 34 Trattoria

The Official Pride Bar Crawl

  • June 21, 2025
  • 4pm-11pm
  • Puttery

Fagtasia Pride: Hobbitfest

  • June 21, 2025
  • 6pm
  • 3 Dollar Bill

MoMA Pride Celebration 2025

  • June 25, 2025
  • 6:30pm-10pm
  • MoMA

PLANET YES PRIDE: Tom Peters James Patterson

  • June 26, 2025
  • 10pm
  • House of Yes

Pride At The Pink Pony Club

  • June 26, 2025
  • 10pm
  • 3 Dollar Bill

LadyLand Festival

  • June 27, 2025
  • 7pm
  • Under the K Street Bridge

🎭 Queer Culture Club

Shine a spotlight on queer stories with comedy shows, concerts, readings, and more.

Department of Gay Ecstasy: Pride Edition

  • June 5, 2025
  • 8:15pm
  • Brooklyn Comedy Collective

Pride Comedy Show

  • June 11, 2025
  • 7:30pm
  • Gotham Comedy Club

East Village Queer: Writers & Writing Below 14th Street

  • June 12, 2025
  • 6pm-7:15pm
  • Tompkins Square Library, Basement

Super Gay Poems with Stephanie Burt and Special Guests

  • June 18, 2025
  • 7pm-8pm
  • The New York Public Library, Stephen A. Schwarzman Building

LGBTQ Pro Wrestling: Fight for Pride 2

  • June 22, 2025
  • 3pm
  • Alewife Brewing 

Book Talk: Queer Happened Here

  • June 25, 2025
  • 5pm-7pm
  • Housing Works Bookstore Cafe

🏙️ Museum Gays & History Baes

Discover LGBTQ+ history though walking tours and special exhibits.

Out of the Closets! Into the Streets!: New York City’s Pride March 1975-1976

  • May 8, 2025 – August 31, 2025
  • The Hispanic Society Museum & Library

Queer History Walks

  • Select weekends
  • The Whitney

Defying Norms: A Queer Self-Portrait Journey

  • June 4, 2025
  • 3:30-5pm
  • Washington Heights Library

Walking Tour: Gay Bars That Are Gone

  • June 7, 2025
  • 5pm-6:30pm
  • Meet at 105 2nd Ave

Walking Tour: Lesbian Herstory of Greenwich Village

  • June 17, 2025
  • 6pm-7:30pm
  • Washington Square Park

Walking Tour: LGBTQ History in East Village

  • June 18, 2025
  • 6pm-8pm
  • Bayard-Condict Building

West Village Pub Tour Traces Roots of LGBTQ Culture – Pride Walking Tour

  • June 21, 2025
  • 2:30pm-5pm
  • The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center – New York

Walking Tour: Un-Erasing Stonewall

  • June 24, 2025
  • 6pm-7:30pm
  • Stonewall National Monument

Walking Tour: Upper West Side

  • June 25, 2025
  • 6pm-7:30pm

Pride month isn’t just about celebration, it’s about visibility, community, and finding joy even when the world feels depressingly chaotic. I’ll see you out there dancing, learning, and loving every minute of it. 🏳️‍🌈 Which events are you planning to attend?

In Life

Powerful Tips to Boost Your Queer Joy Daily

Look, life is a lot. And if you’re a queer adult trying to balance work, relationships, joy, grief, and maybe even a houseplant or two—same. Over the years, I’ve built a few rituals and routines that help me manage my mental health in a real, sustainable way. Nothing perfect or prescriptive here—just what’s worked for me, in hopes it might help you too.


My morning routines

Creating daily rituals really helps me stay grounded and slow down a bit. I’m a heavy coffee drinker and it’s one of my favorite ways to start the day. I make pour over coffee every morning, which can be a bit of a slower and manual process. It’s a moment to breathe, reflect, and let the caffeine slowly summon my personality. While I’m drinking my first cup of coffee, I like to sit and journal for a few minutes. Sometimes I use prompts from a workbook, other times I just word-vomit into a freeform journal. Either way, getting my thoughts out on paper helps me clear my head and feel a little less like a browser with 87 tabs open.

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Let’s get physical

While I would love to reveal that I wake up every morning at 4am, the truth is I’m not a morning person at all. Even waking up at 7am is a struggle. But I do my best to get some kind of movement in early-ish. It sets the tone for the day and gives me a chance to be fully in my body—not just in my feeds. 

Spin classes or a boot camp are my fave because you have to be present. It’s 45 minutes of music, sweat, and forgetting about your to-do list. I do a lot of travel so in a pinch, a short walk or stretch session can do the trick. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s all about keeping movement a consistent part of my life.

Time with Rider

If you were following my dog Tripp on Instagram, I hope you’re now following my pup Rider on the gram and the clock app. My time with Tripp was very important to me and when he passed away, I was devastated but I knew that he lived a long life full of love. When Rider came into my life, I knew I wanted to be really intentional about our time together. Thankfully, I work remotely, so I build plenty of playtime into my schedule.

We do a long midday walk and another shorter one in the afternoon. It breaks up my day, gets me outside, and gives me something to look forward to. Plus, it’s truly calming having a dog curled up next to me while I work.

Entering the group chat

I’ve always leaned hard on my friendships—especially during tough times. Making friends as an adult in NYC isn’t always easy (even when you’re surrounded by 8 million people), but I’ve found a few solid groups I see regularly. Most of my friends are also queer and I think having a chosen family is vital. And in this day and age, I’m so grateful for the group chats with my friends who live all over the rest of the country.  

Whether it’s a spontaneous hangout or sending 47 memes in a row, staying connected to my chosen family has been one of the most important and practical mental wellness tips for queer adults I’ve discovered.

Exploring sobriety

I love a good glass of wine or a very complicated cocktail. But I also love waking up without hangxiety and existential dread. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized alcohol doesn’t always vibe with my mental health. So lately, I’ve been experimenting with a more mindful approach to drinking.

 It’s far-fetched to say I’m eliminating alcohol completely from my life. Instead, I’ve started limiting alcohol to one or two days a week and mixing in non-alcoholic and functional beverages. Even swapping one cocktail for a mocktail on a night out makes a difference. It’s all about allowing myself to enjoy the moment and still feel good the next day. 

Getting creative

I’m a big fan of continuous discovery—whether that’s exploring a new neighborhood, hitting a museum, or trying something random like learning to DJ (yes, really). I’m especially obsessed with queer history walking tours, and with the weather warming up, you’ll definitely catch me out and about (follow along on TikTok if you’re into that kinda thing). I don’t see myself living in New York City forever, so I’m also determined to hit up as many sites as I can.

Giving myself time to explore and nurture my curiosity has become one of my favorite ways to protect my peace and reconnect with what makes me feel alive.  


I’m no mental health pro but I hope these can function as practical mental wellness tips for queer adults and offer a little inspiration. In times like these—when the world feels especially heavy—queer joy isn’t just nice to have, it’s essential. Building small, supportive routines can help us not only cope, but also make space for joy, connection, and moments that feel genuinely good. What are the ways you protect your mental health? Let’s chat about it.

In Entertainment/ Queer Music Club

Pop Panic: Gaga’s Mayhem is a Thrill Ride

After absolutely devouring the stage at Coachella, Lady Gaga has unleashed her latest full-length album, and I’ve had it on repeat ever since. Mayhem is loud, theatrical, gothic, romantic, and full of that signature Gaga chaos we live for. So naturally, I’m breaking it down track by track.


@gaysandconfused

Hi #QueerMusicClub I’ve been listening to @ladygaga’s Mayhem on repeat all month, so let’s talk about it! 🖤

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1. “Disease”

The single that set the tone for this dark, gothic pop era. When this dropped I was excited for the musical direction which feels like a return to the sounds of The Fame Monster and the sledgehammer beats of Born This Way. Plus with a vocal performance that’s part howl, part exorcism, Gaga came in hot. It’s goth-pop perfection and instantly screamed: she’s back, baby.

2. “Abracadabra”

Grand. Witchy. Unhinged. This track owns me. It’s giving Broadway coven with a side of sparkle. The video is spellbinding (literally), and I’m still stomping around my apartment chanting the chorus like it’s a summoning ritual.

3. “Garden of Eden”

A dance floor seduction where Gaga transitions between big vocals on the chorus and bratty rap on the verses. Honestly, t-t-t-take ME to the Garden of Eden.

4. “Perfect Celebrity”

Where The Fame was a satirical commentary on the hunger for fame and the tabloid culture of the time, here Gaga presents a darker side to celebrity and our current obsession with its commodification. This also feels so nostalgic for my dark millennial heart, a flashback to grunge and industrial rock of the aughts. 

5. “Vanish into You”

I’ve been saying this album feels like the endgame of Gaga albums, a greatest hits of new songs, here she gives us a callback to Artpop. Gaga gives us a rare peek behind the curtain here. It’s big, emotional, and campy. 

6. “Killah”

An update on the sound Gaga brought into the world with The Fame, this feels like a glam rock homage to David Bowie and Prince. It’s fun and quirky, she does some really interesting vocal stuff on it. It’s probably my favorite track on the album.

7. “Zombieboy”

Another track that feels born of The Fame Monster era, it really reminds me of “Disco Heaven.” Camp, humor, horror film vibes, and a nod to little monsters everywhere puttin’ their paws up.

8. “LoveDrug”

An arena rock moment that recalls Born This Way. She’s got us crying on the dancefloor. Huge chorus, huge feelings, huge synths.

9. “How Bad Do U Want Me”

Soft Gaga strikes again. This 80s-inspired bop has hints of Eh, Eh (Nothing Else I Can Say) with powerhouse vovals. We all love the rap-talk bridge that’s gone viral asking, “that girl in your head ain’t real how bad do you want me for real?” 

10. “Don’t Call Tonight”

An absolute earworm that feels like a spiritual sequel to “Fashion of His Love.” I can’t get enough of the big chorus and grooving guitar. 

11. “Shadow of a Man”

Another one of my favorite Gaga tracks is “Bad Kids”, and this feels like a grown up version. Punky, messy, and full of heart. Gaga is not just a pop star—she’s a queer music icon with something to say.

12. “The Beast”

As we enter the tail end of the album, I do wish the ballads had been mixed into the track listing rather than lumped together. This is a power ballad that should hit harder. It sounds technically flawless, but feels a bit bland. Gaga’s vocals are giving everything, but the track feels slightly paint-by-numbers.

13. “Blade of Grass”

A gorgeous, stripped-down ballad that brings us into Gaga’s real-life romance. There’s something so soft and sincere here—and dare I say, country-coded?

14. “Die with a Smile”

Two pop icons. One emotionally adult duet. It’s not the Gaga collab I expected, but it’s the one I didn’t know I needed. Perfectly designed for pop radio, yes—but still a satisfying close to the Mayhem.


Mayhem is dark, dramatic, and delightfully camp. Lady Gaga is one of the few music artists who can continuously reinvent herself while still giving us that nostalgic serotonin hit. She’s built a gothic pop world that feels cohesive but lets her be weird, romantic, messy, and powerful. Is she reheating her own nachos? Yeah and that’s absolutely fine for this iconic diva. 

What were your favorite tracks on Mayhem? Which ones do you want to see her perform live in full drag vampire regalia?

In Entertainment/ Queer Music Club

Unpacking the Queer Magic of Olly Alexander’s Polari

Hello hello, Queer Music Club! 👋🏽

While it may have been out for a few weeks now, I’d love to have a kiki about certified queer music icon Olly Alexander’s debut solo album Polari. I’ve been a long time fan of Olly and Years & Years and I’m so excited to follow his journey into this new era. This album is sweaty, synthy, slightly chaotic, and very, very gay—in the best way possible.

So let’s get into this track-by-track breakdown of Polari, shall we?


1. Polari

We’re opening with a glitchy, electric fever dream that sounds like it time-traveled straight from a queer underground club in the late 80s. There’s a lot going on—brash beats, electric guitar riffs—but tbh, it’s a shame all these pieces just don’t add up to more. It feels more like an interlude, a chaotic amuse-bouche to set the vibe.

2. Cupid’s Bow

A synthy, 80s-tinged pop that lyrically takes us on a chase for unrequited love. Yes please. This feels on brand for Olly and I’m here for it.  

3. I Know

This track really builds on the album’s soundscape with chaotic beats, stabbing horns, and some diva vocals from Olly. We’re going full alt-queer-club-kid here, and I need someone to text me the address of whatever underground venue inspired this. Bring your mesh top and emotional baggage.

4. Shadow of Love

The cruising continues. Dark, dreamy, a little dangerous—the vibe is 3am right as you lock eyes with someone across a smoky dance floor. Olly’s vocals are serving sultry realness, and I am eating it up.

5. Make Me a Man

We’ve gone full maximalist on this track with so many competing ideas. It’s giving some Erasure vibes but I’m not sure it totally works. It’s been growing on me with time.

6. Dizzy

Olly’s Eurovision entry makes its appearance, and it honestly feels a little too polished and bland for the rest of the album. 

7. Archangel

This is my favorite of the singles that led to the album’s release. Lyrically, it feels very reminiscent of Years & Years’ early music and really takes me back to the 2010s. Nostalgia’s fun and this is pop perfection. Don’t @ me. 

8. Miss You So Much

And we’re back to the “all of the above” instrumentation of the album’s first half. I really want to love the driving chorus, but there’s just so much going on here.

9. When We Kiss

Another single I’ve really enjoyed. A dance floor tearjerker with whispered vocals and a pounding beat that makes you feel like the main character in your own emotional music video. This is what I come to Olly for. Danceable drama. Catharsis in glitter.

10. Whisper in the Waves

As close as we’re going to get to a ballad in this club. Dark, moody, and so vibey. I was hoping for a few more vocal runs from Olly (give me the drama!) but it’s still an interesting shift in tempo.

11. Beautiful

The sentiment here is sweet—maybe a little too sweet—but sonically we’re still deep in that neon-lit nightclub. I’m not texting my ex over it.

12. Heal You

Here it is, babes: the certified Pride anthem. It’s giving “rainbow flag waving dramatically in the wind” energy. Big vocals. Big message. I can’t wait to stomp through a Pride march with this queer empowerment bop blasting.

13. Language

We close out Polari with another moody, atmospheric track that feels a bit… vague? Lyrically it’s all over the place and aimless but the vibes are alright. A soft landing after a wild ride.


Final Thoughts

Not every track on Polari is perfect but there are definitely some tracks I’m really loving on this album and I appreciate the sound that’s being explored. This is a sweaty, seductive, and unapologetically queer ride.

Have you listened to the album yet? I’m dying to know what your faves are!

👋🏽 #QueerMusicClub! Ready to discuss Olly Alexander’s Polari? I’ve been a long time fan of Olly and Years & Years and I’m so excited for this new era. Let’s get started!

Gays & Confused (@gaysandconfused.bsky.social) 2025-02-20T10:57:00.597Z
In Food & Drink/ Shop

Cheers, Queers: 4 Non-Alcoholic LGBTQ+ Beverage Brands to Try Now

New year, new attempts at health. Whether you’re diving into Dry January or just rethinking your drinking, there’s never been a better time to experiment with an alcohol-free lifestyle. With America’s drinking habits on the decline, a wave of new non-alcoholic options is shaking things up. But still, about 30% of the LGBTQ+ community faces alcohol use disorder. Yes, there’s plenty to drink about these days, but thankfully queer-owned non-alcoholic drink companies are stepping up to create spaces where connection doesn’t cause hangovers. Ready to sip with pride? Check out these fabulous non-alcoholic LGBTQ+ beverage brands that are shaking things up.


Woodnose Sacré

Founded by husbands Justin and Roger, Woodnose Sacré is a non-alcoholic spirit made from a blend of barrel-aged maple syrup and coffee. The main ingredient, fermented maple syrup, is made at Justin’s family farm in North Vermont. Every batch is handcrafted and offers a wonderful flavor that’s delicious right out of the bottle. 


Aplós

Born from the philosophy that simple things add more substance to our lives, Aplós offers a range of functional non-alcoholic spirits and cocktails. Co-founder and reluctant drinker, David Fudge, was inspired to reimagine the adult drinking experience and the social connection it provides. Infused with natural botanicals like hemp and adaptogens, these bevies offer the sensory experience of a cocktail without the hangover. 


Solbrü 

After quitting alcohol in 2017, founder Leanne Kisil set out to support others seeking to reduce or eliminate their alcohol intake. Inspired by nature, Solbrü is an alcohol-free apéritif crafted with apple cider vinegar, organic mushrooms, and herbal extracts. This thoughtful blend is designed to promote connection and well-being, combining flavor with functional benefits.


Modica

Co-founders Eric Wentworth and JD Mitchell launched Modica after noticing a shortage of flavorful, health-conscious options for cocktail and mocktail mixers. Modica’s mixers are made with naturally-sourced ingredients, a low-calorie sweetener, and fortified with vitamins and electrolytes for a special boost of health. The duo recognizes bars as vital spaces for the queer community, and these flavorful mixers offer drinkers a chance to enjoy alcohol-free options or simply reduce their alcohol intake. Each bottle offers a mocktail recipe printed on the label for easy alcohol free sipping.


Are you experimenting with an alcohol-free lifestyle or just cutting back? Tell me all about it along with your favorite tips, tricks, or mocktail recipes! If you’re thirsty for more queer owned beverage brands, get brewing with this list of LGBTQ+ coffee. Cheers, queers!