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Unpacking the Queer Magic of Olly Alexander’s Polari

Hello hello, Queer Music Club! 👋🏽

While it may have been out for a few weeks now, I’d love to have a kiki about certified queer music icon Olly Alexander’s debut solo album Polari. I’ve been a long time fan of Olly and Years & Years and I’m so excited to follow his journey into this new era. This album is sweaty, synthy, slightly chaotic, and very, very gay—in the best way possible.

So let’s get into this track-by-track breakdown of Polari, shall we?


1. Polari

We’re opening with a glitchy, electric fever dream that sounds like it time-traveled straight from a queer underground club in the late 80s. There’s a lot going on—brash beats, electric guitar riffs—but tbh, it’s a shame all these pieces just don’t add up to more. It feels more like an interlude, a chaotic amuse-bouche to set the vibe.

2. Cupid’s Bow

A synthy, 80s-tinged pop that lyrically takes us on a chase for unrequited love. Yes please. This feels on brand for Olly and I’m here for it.  

3. I Know

This track really builds on the album’s soundscape with chaotic beats, stabbing horns, and some diva vocals from Olly. We’re going full alt-queer-club-kid here, and I need someone to text me the address of whatever underground venue inspired this. Bring your mesh top and emotional baggage.

4. Shadow of Love

The cruising continues. Dark, dreamy, a little dangerous—the vibe is 3am right as you lock eyes with someone across a smoky dance floor. Olly’s vocals are serving sultry realness, and I am eating it up.

5. Make Me a Man

We’ve gone full maximalist on this track with so many competing ideas. It’s giving some Erasure vibes but I’m not sure it totally works. It’s been growing on me with time.

6. Dizzy

Olly’s Eurovision entry makes its appearance, and it honestly feels a little too polished and bland for the rest of the album. 

7. Archangel

This is my favorite of the singles that led to the album’s release. Lyrically, it feels very reminiscent of Years & Years’ early music and really takes me back to the 2010s. Nostalgia’s fun and this is pop perfection. Don’t @ me. 

8. Miss You So Much

And we’re back to the “all of the above” instrumentation of the album’s first half. I really want to love the driving chorus, but there’s just so much going on here.

9. When We Kiss

Another single I’ve really enjoyed. A dance floor tearjerker with whispered vocals and a pounding beat that makes you feel like the main character in your own emotional music video. This is what I come to Olly for. Danceable drama. Catharsis in glitter.

10. Whisper in the Waves

As close as we’re going to get to a ballad in this club. Dark, moody, and so vibey. I was hoping for a few more vocal runs from Olly (give me the drama!) but it’s still an interesting shift in tempo.

11. Beautiful

The sentiment here is sweet—maybe a little too sweet—but sonically we’re still deep in that neon-lit nightclub. I’m not texting my ex over it.

12. Heal You

Here it is, babes: the certified Pride anthem. It’s giving “rainbow flag waving dramatically in the wind” energy. Big vocals. Big message. I can’t wait to stomp through a Pride march with this queer empowerment bop blasting.

13. Language

We close out Polari with another moody, atmospheric track that feels a bit… vague? Lyrically it’s all over the place and aimless but the vibes are alright. A soft landing after a wild ride.


Final Thoughts

Not every track on Polari is perfect but there are definitely some tracks I’m really loving on this album and I appreciate the sound that’s being explored. This is a sweaty, seductive, and unapologetically queer ride.

Have you listened to the album yet? I’m dying to know what your faves are!

👋🏽 #QueerMusicClub! Ready to discuss Olly Alexander’s Polari? I’ve been a long time fan of Olly and Years & Years and I’m so excited for this new era. Let’s get started!

Gays & Confused (@gaysandconfused.bsky.social) 2025-02-20T10:57:00.597Z
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Cheers, Queers: 4 Non-Alcoholic LGBTQ+ Beverage Brands to Try Now

New year, new attempts at health. Whether you’re diving into Dry January or just rethinking your drinking, there’s never been a better time to experiment with an alcohol-free lifestyle. With America’s drinking habits on the decline, a wave of new non-alcoholic options is shaking things up. But still, about 30% of the LGBTQ+ community faces alcohol use disorder. Yes, there’s plenty to drink about these days, but thankfully queer-owned non-alcoholic drink companies are stepping up to create spaces where connection doesn’t cause hangovers. Ready to sip with pride? Check out these fabulous non-alcoholic LGBTQ+ beverage brands that are shaking things up.


Woodnose Sacré

Founded by husbands Justin and Roger, Woodnose Sacré is a non-alcoholic spirit made from a blend of barrel-aged maple syrup and coffee. The main ingredient, fermented maple syrup, is made at Justin’s family farm in North Vermont. Every batch is handcrafted and offers a wonderful flavor that’s delicious right out of the bottle. 


Aplós

Born from the philosophy that simple things add more substance to our lives, Aplós offers a range of functional non-alcoholic spirits and cocktails. Co-founder and reluctant drinker, David Fudge, was inspired to reimagine the adult drinking experience and the social connection it provides. Infused with natural botanicals like hemp and adaptogens, these bevies offer the sensory experience of a cocktail without the hangover. 


Solbrü 

After quitting alcohol in 2017, founder Leanne Kisil set out to support others seeking to reduce or eliminate their alcohol intake. Inspired by nature, Solbrü is an alcohol-free apéritif crafted with apple cider vinegar, organic mushrooms, and herbal extracts. This thoughtful blend is designed to promote connection and well-being, combining flavor with functional benefits.


Modica

Co-founders Eric Wentworth and JD Mitchell launched Modica after noticing a shortage of flavorful, health-conscious options for cocktail and mocktail mixers. Modica’s mixers are made with naturally-sourced ingredients, a low-calorie sweetener, and fortified with vitamins and electrolytes for a special boost of health. The duo recognizes bars as vital spaces for the queer community, and these flavorful mixers offer drinkers a chance to enjoy alcohol-free options or simply reduce their alcohol intake. Each bottle offers a mocktail recipe printed on the label for easy alcohol free sipping.


Are you experimenting with an alcohol-free lifestyle or just cutting back? Tell me all about it along with your favorite tips, tricks, or mocktail recipes! If you’re thirsty for more queer owned beverage brands, get brewing with this list of LGBTQ+ coffee. Cheers, queers! 

In Food & Drink/ Shop

Wake Up with Pride: Queer-Owned Coffee Brands You’ll Love

To better support the LGBTQ+ community, I’m on a mission to spend more of my money at LGBTQ+ owned businesses. Coffee is a huge part of my life and one of my favorite daily rituals is brewing coffee in the morning. I love starting the day slowly with a cup of coffee and I’ve been interested in supporting more queer owned coffee brands. If you’re a coffee drinker and looking to do the same, here’s a list of LGBTQ+ owned coffee brands bringing more diversity to the coffee industry.


2 Queens

Charles Wilkin and Martin Higgins are the queer royals behind 2 Queens, a shop in Narrowsburg, New York that offers coffee, tea, and honey. The venture is an opportunity to unite Martin’s 25 years of coffee roasting expertise and Charles’ devotion to honeybees. All their coffee is hand roasted to perfection by Martin. While their tea is carefully curated to be all-natural and support honeybees and other pollinators. To celebrate pride every morning, they even offer a special Queer Coffee blend in gorgeous packaging that’ll look great on your kitchen counter. You can visit their Catskills cafe in person or shop their online store.


Equator Coffees

Brooke McDonnell and Helen Russell founded Equator Coffees in 1995 in a Marin County garage. They set out to build a coffee company focused on quality, sustainability, and social responsibility. In 2016, Equator Coffees won National Small Business of the Year by the Small Business Administration, the first LGBTQ+ owned brand to earn this award. Today you can shop their coffee online or visit their cafes in the Bay Area and Southern California.


Queer Wave Coffee

Cheyenne Xochítl Love is the founder of Queer Wave Coffee, a coffee brand with a mission to disrupt the colonial supply chain. All their caffeinated coffee comes from Catracha Coffee Co. in La Paz, Honduras, a social enterprise which allows small coffee farmers to access and profit from the specialty coffee market. Through coffee, Cheyenne, an Indigenous, two-spirit, non-binary trans woman, is committed to dismantling patriarchy, white supremacy, and other oppressions. Every bag of Queer Wave Coffee proudly displays “1312” in the bottom corner.


Uncommon Coffee Roasters

In 1994, Guy Darienzo and Stephen Keye founded Uncommon Coffee Roasters in Saugatuck, Michigan, where their cafe Uncommon Ground quickly became known as, “the local gay coffee shop.” The company takes pride in celebrating diversity, giving back and sustainability, striving to work with companies that share their values. If you’re looking for more novelty products, they do offer a Pride Blend and a Love Wins blend.

To continue supporting the LGBTQ+ community, Uncommon Coffee Roasters donates to the Uncommonly Fabulous Fund, which offers financial support to LGBTQ+ youth and adults in need in the Southwest Michigan area. Visit their cafe in Saugatuck, Michigan or shop their coffee online.


FiNCA To FiLTER

Inspired by her work with coffee producers for Habitat para la Humanidad Guatemala, Kayla Bellman started FiNCA To FiLTER to combine her passions for coffee and social justice. This queer woman-owned business has a commitment to radical transparency, sharing the amount paid to growers, and fostering a sense of kinship and safety for their community, even partnering with ARC-Southeast to serve as a Plan-B outpost.

You can visit one of their cafes in Atlanta, Georgia, or purchase their coffee online.



Queer Coffee

Sourcing high-quality, organic, and fair trade coffee beans, Queer Coffee is a novelty coffee brand that supports LGBTQ+ causes. $2 from every bag sold goes to support the Campaign for Southern Equality, which works to promote full legal and lived LGBTQ+ equality in the south. If you’re looking for pride-themed coffee products, the brand’s logo features fun rainbow colored coffee beans to bring some joy to your morning cup.   


I’m always on the lookout for more LGBTQ+ businesses to support and would love to know your favorite queer-owned coffee brands. Not only that, but queer friendly spaces have been so important to my life over the years, what are your favorite LGBTQ+ inclusive coffee shops? Let’s talk about them!

In Travel

A Weekend in Madrid: The Ultimate Queer-Friendly Travel Guide

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Madrid holds a special place in my heart, always calling me back time and again with its exciting energy and welcoming atmosphere. I’ve had the privilege of visiting the city a few times and uncovered a few hidden gems and embraced its lively queer scene. Here are my suggestions for a weekend in the Spanish capital.


Where to Stay

Chueca is the gayborhood and the surrounding area is booming with trendy bars, restaurants, and shops. If you’re looking to make the most of your stay, you’ll want to make sure to find a spot nearby.

Search for LGBTQ+ rentals in Madrid on misterb&b.

Eats

Tapas tour – One of the most exciting things we did in Madrid was a tapas tour. Most places offer a free tapas plate when you order a drink. We started at Cerveceria Cervantes and basically went door to door from there having a beer or glass of wine at each stop.  

El Tigre – 7 euros bought us two glasses of red wine and a giant plate of assorted tapas. Sure it looked like a plate of scraps, but it was one of the most affordable meals of my life.

Mazúl – A trendy spot that offers modern and creative takes on traditional Mexican food. Some standouts are the handmade tortillas, Barbacoa (lamb dish), and I especially loved the Fideo Seco, which brought an impressive level of sophistication to a dish I grew up eating.

Museo del Jamón – On my previous trips to Madrid, I’d seen this chain but never stopped in. The name is so hilarious to me and I’d been dying to check it out. I finally got my chance when we stopped in for a glass of wine and some tapas.

Lamucca de Pez – This restaurant is spacious and modern with plenty of seating at communal tables. They serve up pizzas, salads, and other Mediterranean fare. It’s another popular spot, so get there early or make a reservation to avoid a wait.

Chocolateria San Gines – Everyone knows I have the biggest sweet tooth and so of course I was ecstatic about having chocolate y churros in Spain. Every time we walked by San Gines, there was a line out the door. Luckily, it’s open all night and sweets are the perfect ending to an evening of drinking. But don’t be like me and maybe share your order with someone(s).

Drinks

LL Bar – This was my favorite of the traditional gay bars. The space is rather small and you can expect to be squeezed in. But don’t worry, it’s worth it for the amazing drag shows. For a few euros, the queens will even let you sing with them.

You&Me Bar – On a quiet night, we stopped in and were welcomed with a shot of tequila rose. We had such a fun time we had to go back on our next night out and found it to be bustling with lots of dance floor action.

¿Quién La Invitó? – On a week night with no clue where to go out for drinks, we hit the streets and followed the crowd to this bar. Another small space, the dance floor was lit and the night quickly transitioned to a great drag show.

Gris – This queer friendly bar blasts plenty of Euro 90s indie hits. I can’t express enough how much I love grunge.

Cazador – Another queer friendly bar, this was one of my favorite drinking spots. It was crowded with hipster homos and played plenty of pop music.


Ficus – Craft cocktails inspired by Africa. You’ll find exotic fruits and creative takes on classic cocktails on their menu. The interior offers an intimate vibe with botanical touches and West African artwork, feeling very much like a retreat inside the city.

Sights

Puerta del Sol – Madrid reminds me so much of New York and I’d say Puerta del Sol is like Times Square. It’s a busy plaza surrounded by shops and restaurants.

Palacio Real – Spain has one of the largest palaces in Europe. It’s so majestic you definitely have to make a stop here.

Museo del Prado – I’ve visited Madrid twice before and I’m always happy to stop into this museum. It has one of the best fine art collections featuring classical works from all over Europe.

El Retiro Park – On our last day in Madrid, we went for an afternoon stroll through the park. It’s a popular hangout for locals. There’s a small lake with rowboats for rent and entertaining street performers.

Palacio de Cristal – Buen Retiro Park also is home to a large glass building that houses some art installations.

Caixa Forum – The vertical garden at Caixa Forum is one of the best Instagram spots in Madrid. Get there early to avoid waiting for other visitors to clear some space. And of course, if you have the time, be sure to check out the museum.


From savoring tapas to dancing the night away, a weekend in Madrid is definitely a good time. I always find the city so creatively inspiring and can’t wait to visit again. Have you made a trip to the Spanish capital? What are your recs?

See the Gays & Confused Travel Guides to discover more queer friendly travel tips.

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In Shop/ Style

Slacktivists of the World: Support the Cause, Add to Cart!

These days it may seem like there’s more work to do than ever to solidify LGBTQ+ rights and equality. You might be feeling overwhelmed at the thought of supporting so many causes, but luckily there’s an easy way to make your voice heard. By shopping! It’s like the easiest thing to do and you get all new stuff!


GLSEN – Rise Up Bracelet

GLSEN is a nonprofit that works to promote LGBTQ+ advocacy and inclusion in education. In response to recent legislation that threatens the livelihoods of LGBTQ+ youth, GLSEN is asking supporters to take the Rise Up pledge. 

Show your support for the children with a very trendy Rise Up Bracelet, preferably in the bold fluorescent rainbow thread. If you’re gonna show support, show it loud.


ACT UP – Iconic “Silence = Death” T-Shirt

Aside from a rainbow flag, no symbol is more iconic of queerness than the pink triangle. In 1987, gay activists in New York plastered the city with posters featuring this message in an effort to protest injustice and governmental indifference during the AIDS crisis. Today, ACT UP fights to end the HIV/AIDS epidemic. You can support the cause and look damn cool by shopping this iconic tee.


HRC – Seed Bead Stretch Wristband

Ask the kids, beaded bracelets are very in right now. Grab one in every color to create a rainbow stack to show your pride and support HRC’s fight for LGBTQ equality.

100% of your purchase goes toward HRC’s fight for LGBTQ equality, and it’ll make you an active member of the organization.


Matthew Shepard Foundation – Erase Hate Clack Fan

When you’re in the club, yeah be clackin’ that. With an Erase Hate fan, you’ll keep cool while supporting the Matthew Shepard Foundation’s online and offline programming. The organization works to amplify the story of Matthew Shepard, raise awareness of anti-violence, and promote the dignity and equality of all people.


PFLAG – Pet Bandana

Let your pup show off their support in style! Through their network of local chapters, PFLAG works to support, educate, and advocate for the LGBTQ+ community and those who love them.


Shop for the cause, my friends. Is there an LGBTQ+ organization that you’re proud to support? Let’s chat about it!