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Open Season: A Look Behind the Cinematic Curtain

Many many years ago, in 2009 to be exact, I was struggling through a relationship. Looking back it’s very easy to see that it wasn’t a relationship I wanted to be in. At that moment in time, I didn’t know better. To keep the peace, my boyfriend was adamant that we try opening our relationship. The queer landscape was very different then, and I knew almost nothing about how this should work. As part of my own process, I wrote a screenplay for a short film about a couple struggling with opening their relationship. I had a vision for something serious told with a camp sensibility and plenty of motion graphics. Even though our world was yet to go fully digital, I wanted to show a physical representation for conversations and connections happening digitally. 

Open Season tells the story of Jason, who’s struggling with a newly opened relationship. While his boyfriend is out one night, Jason chats with an oversexed torso, a lonely gaymer, and tries to defend his situation from the judgments and questions of his best friend. 

Jason struggles to get into the groove of his relationship’s new boundaries. – Played by Chance McKee

For years I sat on this project and periodically came back to it to edit the story and send it to friends for feedback. Enough time passed since I had worked on a film and I was eager to get something going. In the summer of 2015, I pulled the trigger and decided to move forward on shooting Open Season. Luckily, I had a group of friends who were willing to help out and work on the project with me.

Natasha is Jason’s best friend and while they’re in sync with most of their life, he struggles with being honest about his open relationship. – Played by Megan Russell

The Dramz

From the get go, I had issues casting for the film. I booked two days at a studio to have actors come and read for me. Unfortunately, no one showed up either day. I was gutted but it didn’t break my determination. Through a mix of single in-person and online reads, I was able to put together a strong cast. A week or two before filming, I invited them over to my house for a rehearsal. The actor playing Chase wasn’t able to show up because of a conflict with another shoot. I was okay with it, but it definitely was a red flag. He was MIA the weekend of the shoot.

We sprang into action to adjust the schedule, shuffle one of the actors to play Chase, and I had to step in to play the boyfriend, David. There’s plenty of acting in my past, so I wasn’t uncomfortable taking on the role. But it was upsetting because I was looking forward to focusing on directing. Not to mention, the final scene with David is pretty emotional and I wanted to make sure everything was done right. If I intended to act in the film, I would’ve rehearsed my scene more intensely and recorded rehearsals to direct myself better before actually shooting. 

Christopher is a lonely gaymer looking for a real connection. – Played by Zach Denny
Chase is the kind of guy with a torso pic for his profile. He’s looking for a good time. – Played by Andrew Brett

What I Learned

Filmmaking is one of my passions and sadly one that I don’t explore more often. I’m not working professionally in film and I’ve yet to make something that’s generally praised so it still comes with many lessons. Open Season was no different. 

An important piece of feedback that is still an issue with the film is the unclear boundary between reality and digital conversations. It’s hard to grasp that these text exchanges aren’t flashbacks. My original vision was to play with those blurred boundaries and maybe add a digital glitch as a transition between the two worlds. Through multiple edits, I really came to love the idea of making text exchanges seem like they happened in person and decided to use match actions to transition between scenes. This confusion was key to the film, I thought. To keep the distinction subtle, I planned to add motion graphics in the background to show other conversations these characters could be having at the same time. 

Honestly, while I love the graphics they do very little to serve the narrative. We originally shot Natasha’s scene so that a clothing rack was in her living room, showing that she was online shopping while she talked with Jason. This scene stood out way too much since no other scene had surreal elements like that. We reshot it to remove the clothing rack. If I could do this film all over, I would’ve set the text conversations in surreal worlds and never would’ve played up these blurred lines. Chris’ conversation can take place in a Call of Duty war zone, Chase can be lying on a bed of shirtless men, and Natasha can be in a dressing room at Forever 21. It would add that camp sensibility I was looking for and make it clear these conversations weren’t happening in person. 

The message of the film, I think gets a bit lost and it’s definitely something I wish I could clean up. Over the years, I had several gay friends react differently to the story. Some felt it was a great reminder that online dating apps are terrible or that open relationships are terrible. Neither of those are the message of the film as I intended. The main story is about a couple failing to communicate or truly understand their needs. Jason struggles with even finding a way to discuss the relationship with his best friend. Another part of the story is the need to make connections. Sure, Chase is on the app for a good time but Chris is trying to find a real relationship and Jason is trying to make sense of his own. 


While I entered a handful of festivals, Open Season failed to gain any traction. Womp womp. It’s really upsetting but aside from my own criticisms it’s still a wonderful project that I’m proud of. I’m happy to share the story wherever I can. And if you’re putting together any kind of film showcase, please let me know! I’d love Open Season to be a part of it!

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Queens In The Time Of Corona: Drag Shows You Can Watch Online

In spite of the plethora of coronavirus memes circulating on the interwebs, quarantine life can be extremely difficult for so many of us. Self isolating, economic uncertainty, and concerns about the virus’ potentially serious health effects can all be too much to deal with. As queer people, we often find our community and a space to express ourselves at gay bars or Pride celebrations. The absence of those spaces can intensify mental health issues. A survey by Queer Voices Heard found that 57% of LGBTQ people believe their lives will be worse off in six months because of the coronavirus. A few weeks of trying to flatten the curve has already taken a huge economic toll on the service industry and the nightlife performers we know and love. 

Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but it’s not all doom and gloom! We can still enjoy performances by some of our favorite drag queens and continue to support them. Every week, drag performers are going live and finding innovative ways to make the most of performing on mobile screens. Here are a few online drag shows you can tune into every week.


Biqtch Puddin’s #DIGITALDRAGSHOW

When: Fridays at 10pm EDT
Where: twitch.tv/biqtchpuddin


La Queerantine

When: Daily shows Wednesday – Saturday at 4pm EDT
Where: Instagram Live – @laqueerantine


Drag Queen Story Hour

When: See Facebook page for schedule
Where: Facebook Live or Instagram Live


PEG Presents: Digital Drag Fest

When: March 27 – April 30 see performance schedule
Where: Stageit


Drag Aerobics

When: Every Wednesday at 3:30pm EDT
Where: Facebook Live or Instagram Live – @dollytrolleydrag


Club Q

When: Every night at 9:00pm EDT, Saturdays at 6:00pm EDT
Where: Zoom, see Instagram bio (@clubquarantine) for password


Hopefully there are still plenty of gay bars and individual queens firing up our notifications with shows of their own. If your favorite drag queen is going live, please let me know! I’d love to tune in and start a more active list on Twitter and Instagram. If you don’t see your favorite queen performing online, you can always show your support by donating to them directly. Queerantine.Me has an ongoing list of Venmo/CashApp/PayPal accounts for your local LGBTQ bar staff and drag performers.

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#Quarantunes: Feel Good Beats to Lift Your Spirits

Ever since I started this blog I’ve been curating a monthly Spotify playlist to go with it. It’s a mix of fresh tracks and nostalgic tunes. While most people who curate regular playlists keep creating new ones, I refresh the existing playlist. Which I think is fun, especially for subscribers, to discover an all new vibe when you check in.

Initially I would post screenshots of the playlist along with a link but I’ve let that go for a while. During my quarantine downtime, I decided to bring that back as a reminder that the playlist is updated and as a record of the tunes I’ve curated in the past.

Spotify playlist - March 2020

This month, I’ve put together a collection of light disco tunes for living room dance parties. It’s gonna take a ton of dancing in my house to survive the wrath of Miss Rona. I’ve included plenty of my favorite artists like Kylie Minogue, Ximena Sariñana, and Christine and the Queens along with some viral hits like Doja Cat’s “Say So.” Your Smith and Peggy Gou are my favorite recent discoveries and I can’t wait to hear more from them.

You can always find the current playlist under the “Hot Jams” link on the homepage, on the side bar to the right on desktop, or in the footer on mobile.

In Life

Ways To Connect & Thrive With These Online LGBTQ Communities

Online LGBTQ communities

Let’s ignore the elephant in the room and say that you’re probably longing for some social interaction today, of all days. Regardless of any *cough* pandemics *cough* keeping you locked indoors and reflecting on your mental health for weeks at a time, it’s not unlikely for LGBTQs to face loneliness. It’s not like gay men are twice as likely to be depressed as straight men or 2.6 times as likely to live alone. If for some reason, you’re feeling disconnected or in need of friendship and community, don’t worry, the internet’s here for you. Here’s a list of online communities where everyone’s gay, too.


Slack icon - List of LGBTQ Slack communities to join

Slack Groups

Basically all of my career has been in tech, so I’m always on the hunt for LGBTQ networking groups. If you’re in tech, you know Slack is the tool du jour for the industry. Here are a couple of tech communities you can join on Slack.

LGBTQ in Tech

This community provides a space for LGBTQ people in technology to chat and support each other. Out of all the Slack groups I’m in, this one has the most channels definitely offering something for everyone. Aside from professional conversations, you’ll find channels devoted things like to beach goings, asmr, and Disney.

Out in Tech

This non-profit boasts over 30,000 members and 15 chapters across the country. They host networking and education events if you’re interested in learning more about a career in tech. Currently the group is hosting online events every night at 9pm ET/6pm PST. RSVP to join.

Techqueria*

This is one of my favorite communities, although it’s also not exclusively LGBTQ. This group for Latinxs in tech has been very active and inclusive in my experience. Their Slack community also has plenty of channels for almost every group and locale and does have an active LGBTQAI channel.

Chat icon - List of Online Forums for the LGBTQ community.

Online Forums

If you want to go into old school forums, these communities offer a place to discuss mental health and find support.

Trevorspace

I’ll be honest, it’s been a long time since I was a teenage queer, and while cultural attitudes have shifted, it’s still not always the easiest for young people to find their tribe. This community offers a space for young people between the ages of 13-24 to get advice and support, join groups based on their interests, and make new friends.

Empty Closets

This community offers a forum with ongoing discussions and chat rooms mostly for those in the process of coming out or working to build a solid support group of LGBTQ friends. The community originated in 2004 as a safe space for LGBTQ teens but now welcomes members of all ages.

Therapy Tribe

Research shows that LGBTQ individuals are at higher risk for depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Whew. The LGBTribe offers peer-to-peer support groups for mental health issues and lets members participate in wellness challenges, access tools to help them on their journey, and connect with therapists.


Whether you’re suddenly seeking connection or you’ve always been social online, hopefully you’ll find yourself at home in one of these online communities. Already a member of an online community you love? Let me know! And if you see me in one of these groups, feel free to reach out!

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Books I’m Reading This Year

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Oh look, a new year’s resolution post on someone’s blog. How novel. Speaking of novels, one of my goals this year is to read more books. I’m not going to set myself up for failure by attempting to tackle a book a month. I’m guilty of taking a full year to finish one book, so 12 would be just too impossible. I’m kicking off the year with the goal of reading 5 books. And don’t worry, I’m definitely already having an anxiety attack about it. And no, I didn’t forget that this is a queer focused blog, each book is written by an LGBTQ or female author. 

Her Body and Other Parties

I’ve read so much about this book and when I heard one of the stories being retold in a podcast, I couldn’t resist. I’ve already begun reading it and can’t put it down.

In Cold Blood

Truman Capote is an author whose work I’ve always wanted to explore. Over the holidays, my brother was telling me how much he loved reading this book and couldn’t recommend it more. He gifted me a copy and I can’t wait to read it.

Before Night Falls

Whenever I’m browsing books online, I frequently see Reinaldo Arenas’ memoir recommended to me. Clearly the internet gods know something about me. When I stumbled upon it at a bookstore sale, I knew I had to take it. TBH, it’s been  sitting on my bookshelf for over a year now. 2020, we’ll finally make it happen.

Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion

Earlier this summer, I read Jia Tolentino’s “Losing Religion And Finding Ecstasy In Houston” in the New Yorker and I absolutely loved it. Her writing is incredible and I immediately forwarded it on to many of my friends. I’m officially a Jia stan and can’t wait to read more of her stories in this book. Plus, she’s a fellow Texan.

Imperial Bedrooms

While I’ve never read a Bret Easton Ellis novel, I’ve been a fan of the film adaptations of his books. That WASPy east coast 80s culture is a whole mood I love to immerse myself in. A few months ago, I found it at a bookstore’s sidewalk sale and picked it up. As a sequel to Less Than Zero, it’s possible I’ll be lost and end up revising my list to include that title. 

Interested in knowing how well I stick to this goal? Follow me on Twitter or Instagram, and I’ll keep you posted throughout the year and I’d be more than happy to chat about them!