Happy Halloween.
My absolute favorite bar in Austin is Cheer Up Charlies. In the summer of 2010, a date introduced me to the bar at its original east side location. I instantly fell in love and spent so many nights drinking, dancing, and making memories with friends there. Itās new location on Red River is iconic with a natural rock wall that borders its outdoor space. Cheer Ups does a great job of supporting local music acts and is a great space to find basically any creative performance youāre looking for.
Ambiance: Casual, Dive bar
Crowd: Hipster, Queer, Indie music fans
Good For: Group hangouts, happy hour, nightcap
Standouts: Arloās ā the Vegan food truck, Golden Ticket cocktail, bottles of champagne, the giant pink tent
Growing my brand is always something Iām trying to push to the top of my priorities but often gets knocked down by personal and professional life happenings. Iāve been unusually absent the last few months and Iād like to explain why. I recently packed up my life, my dog, and my boyfriend and relocated to New York. The move was preceded by an accident in the gym resulting in a shoulder dislocation. To say the least, itās been an exciting and terrifying and stressful few months.
While I had prepared myself for a rough few months adjusting to my new life, thatās always much easier said than done. Finding myself in a new city without a solid social network or a job has been tough. The move was spurred by my own craving for more career growth and options and Richardās enrollment in the MBA program at NYU. Spending my days networking and job hunting while making new friends has been emotionally and mentally exhausting. So, this World Mental Health Day, Iād like to share some of the ways Iām trying to work on my mental health every day.
Exercise
The biggest thing for me is physical exercise. In Austin, I worked out either at the gym or in a class several times a week. It was part of my weekly routine and social life. Dislocating my shoulder and having to take several weeks off from working out has been one of the biggest blows to my mental health and a huge stressor in adjusting to life in New York. In the last couple of weeks, Iāve finally been able to do more exercising without risking another injury but itās definitely slow going. Getting back into this routine has been one of my major priorities.
Time with Tripp
Hopefully youāre now following my dog Tripp on Instagram. Apartment life definitely means much more time spent with the dog. Setting him free to roam the backyard isnāt an option anymore, so itās important he gets his own play time. Most days start and end with a trip to the dog park for some off-leash fun. Tripp has also been my daily companion and Iām definitely thankful for our time together. Iāve always talked about making a web series about Tripp and now I finally have the time to get started. His Instagram account is the first step.
Words with friends
Whenever Iāve gone through difficult moments, Iāve always leaned on my friends. Which was easy in Austin where I had a core group of best friends and an wider net of social connections. In New York, I know very few people and have made it a priority to improve my relationships with the ones I do know. Itās been great reconnecting with people in the city and very fun to meet new people. Spending an hour having lunch with someone has done wonders in boosting my mood for days to come.
Disconnect after 6pm
The job hunt is a grind. With multiple versions of resumes, profiles on job search sites, the endless cover letters, itās hard to know when to shut down for the day. New York seems to have endless opportunities and I could just keep at it for days. My first week on the hunt, I found myself sitting at my laptop sending off resumes until midnight. And even if I had put away the computer early, I found myself reloading my email on my phone hoping and praying for any response. Even at midnight. Thatās completely unsustainable. These days, Iām trying to stick to a schedule of what I will accomplish every day of the week and how long Iāll be working. My goal is to be done by 6pm. If I havenāt met my quota for job applications, Iāll have to make it up the next day. Iāve always appreciated work/life balance and Iām trying to approach the job hunt like I would any job. And while Iām not totally disconnecting, I am disconnecting from āworkā and letting go of email until the next day.
Discovery time
As Iāve started scheduling out my days, Iāve started dedicating time to discovery. This means exploring different parts of the city, a museum trip, or learning something new on Skillshare. Iāve also been a huge fan of CreativeMornings in Austin and started attending pretty much every event on the schedule in New York. Giving myself time to explore and nurture my curiosity has done wonders for my mental health.
Iām definitely not a mental health professional and I donāt have any answers on that front, but these are ways Iām coping with tough days. Hopefully theyāre useful to you and of course, feel free to reach out if youād like to hang in NY or have a virtual coffee.
In the current political climate, itās more important than ever to participate in politics. But what if making protest signs and calling your congressman isnāt your thing? First of all, shame on you. But have no fear, you can still make your voice heard and contribute to causes that benefit the LGBTQ community. By shopping! Itās like the easiest thing to do and you get all new stuff!
Pink Triangle Project enamel pin ā Matthew Dean Stewart
Aside from a rainbow flag, no symbol is more iconic of queerness than the pink triangle. And if youāre as obsessed with enamel pins as me, youāll definitely want to adorn your favorite jacket/coat/bag/tank-top with one of these. Not only will you look very chic but $3.00 of every pin sold is donated to āThe Trevor Project.ā (Seen in photo above.)
Otherwild x Herstory Collection
A statement tee is perfect for putting queerness front and center. Inspired by a homemade t-shirt seen in a Larry Butler photo from a 1979 March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights, the image is still muy escandaloso today. As part of an Otherwild and Herstory collaboration, 10% of the sale proceeds go to theĀ Lesbian Herstory ArchivesĀ in Park Slope, Brooklyn.Ā (Seen in photo above.)
Make America Gay Again hat ā Human Rights Campaign
Take red caps (and America) back from the MAGA crowd with the HRCās slogan hat. Youāll also become a member with your purchase.
100% Human tank ā Everlane
Sometimes the best messages are the most obvious. Maybe Trumpās America just needs a reminder that yes, queer people are 100% humanā¦at least the tank is cute AF. On top of that, Everlane will donate $5 to the HRC for every tank sold.
Youāve Got This enamel pin ā Gay Pin Guys
Just accept your new obsession with enamel pins. Itās a thing. Remind yourself daily that youāre going to be a success, youāve got this. Proceeds from this pin support theĀ True Colors Fund, which works to end LGBTQ youth homelessness.
Food 4 Thot + GreenBoxShop T-shirts
Are you listening to the Food 4 Thot podcast as much as I am? Youāre probably just as excited that theyāve released a line of t-shirts with GreenBoxShop that supports theĀ Trans Law Center. The entire collection is full of wit and difficult to choose. Just remind our fellow Americans that this revolution with be cute as hell.
Rudyās 1-2-3 Bundle
One cannot live on threads alone. Stay stylishly clean with Rudyās 1-2-3 Bundle of shampoo, conditioner, and body wash. Every purchase supports homeless LGBTQ youth.
Shop for the cause, my friends.
Who: Kim Petras
Whatās it like: Sticky sweet bubblegum pop sometimes edgy but always in a youthful haze.
Standouts: Heart to Break, Hills, Hillside Boys
Lyrics for your Instagram captions:
I want all my clothes designer
I want someone else to buy them
I Donāt Want It At All
If you buy me diamonds
And you keep me smiling
Baby, I can be with you
I Donāt Want It At All
Hillside boys you call my name
You make my heart sparkle like champagne
Hillside Boys
All my exes want attention, I aināt payinā it
Hills
Where youāre most likely to hear it: Slumber parties, Forever 21, gay beach parties
Why you should listen to it: Aside from being good fun, Kim is a trans artist whoās ready for mainstream pop listeners. If youāre on the wrong side of 25, you might feel a little old, but a few bops in and youāll forget all about the age difference.
Hereās Kim Petras covering the Killersā Human at SXSW 2018: