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A Year of Giving Back: 12 LGBTQ Organizations to Support

Since we’re only a few weeks into the new year, you might still have some motivation to make some changes in yourself and in the world. I’m always trying to find ways to give back and contribute to my community and a friend turned me on to the idea of giving 1% for the 99%. Essentially, you pledge to donate 1% of your monthly income to 12 different nonprofits. This year, I’m challenging myself (and you) to donate to these 12 LGBTQ organizations making a difference in the community.


January

OutYouth – I’ll be starting out the year by supporting a local Austin organization that provides a variety of programs and services for LGBTQ youth like a drop-in center for youth to hang out at, free HIV testing, and facilitated discussions. Every year OutYouth puts on events like the Out Youth Prom, an evening that allows queer youth the chance to have their own high school prom.

February

GSA Network – Continuing with support for the children, GSAs provide a safe space for queer and straight students to socialize and support each other. GSA Network offers resources and support for those local GSA clubs. Additionally, they help develop youth into leaders to head their local clubs.

March

Trans United Fund – It’s time to end the patriarchy which is why I’m proud to support an organization that is committed to building the political power of the trans community. They do this by building political leadership in the trans community and aiding and endorsing candidates with pro-trans platforms.

April

Victory Institute – Representation and visibility is everything. The best way to ensure LGBT rights is to have LGBTQ politicians representing our needs. The Victory Institute is the only national organization that works to train and develop LGBTQ leaders to take on careers in politics, government, business, and advocacy.

May

ALLGO – This Texas organization provides cultural arts, wellness, and social justice programs for queer people of color. As a queer person of color myself, this is an organization that I’ve been interested in for a while and have been meaning to be more involved with.

June

Gay and Lesbian Medical Association – The world’s oldest association of LGBTQ healthcare professionals works for to build equality in healthcare.  

Their website also helps you find an LGBTQ friendly doctor, which you can appreciate if you’ve ever been treated by a doctor unfamiliar with our community.

July

The Ali Forney Center – A staggering 40% of homeless youth identify as LGBTQ. The AFC works to provide housing and support services for homeless queer youth.

August

AIDS Services of Austin – ASA provides services to people living with HIV and AIDS while also working to prevent the spread of HIV through education and outreach.

September

LGBT Asylum Support Task Force – While the US may slipping in its support for the LGBT community, some places in the world are far less welcoming. This organization supports LGBTQ people seeking asylum in the US. I had no idea that asylum seekers aren’t allowed to work until they are granted a work permit and social security number, which can take more than a year. The LGBT Asylum Task Force works to provide housing, food, basic necessities, and financial support during that time.

October

LAMBDA Legal – As the oldest and largest LGBTQ focused legal organization, Lambda Legal doesn’t charge their clients for legal representation or advocacy.

November

Sylvia Rivera Law Project – Named after the transgender activist, this organization works to guarantee that all people are free to self-determine their gender identity. They provide trainings for service providers and name and ID changing assistance.

December

SAGEElderly LGBTQ face higher poverty rates as well as significant health disparities than the general elderly population. Discrimination and social isolation can make things significant worse. Through their network of affiliates in SAGENet, SAGE works to improve financial security, reduce isolation, and enhance the quality of life for LGBTQ elders.


Hopefully this list inspires you to find and support a cause you’re passionate about. You never know, you might just find a dance party for that cause. If there are any LGBTQ organizations you love that I’ve left off the list, let me know!

In Entertainment

Queer Music Club: TWINKIDS

Who: TWINKIDS – A queerpop duo from LA.

Album: Boys Love

What’s it like: The duo’s debut EP features pop songs sticky with synths and vulnerable lyrics revealing a longing to be loved.

Standouts: Overdressed, Body Wonder, Love Story Wa Totsuzenni

Lyrics for your Instagram captions:

“Fell in love and it comes with a price
All your loving, it distracts me”

– Overdressed

“You leave me with a smile on your face
You’re dressed up for me
Always talking me to stay”
– Overdressed

“Feeling winter in my summer skin”

– Dreamer

Where you’re most likely to hear it: NPR, on the soundtrack of an art house film, Urban Outfitters

Why you should listen to it: It’s pure and poetic pop music with a queer sensibility. While the EP’s themes reflect a coming-of-age moment, everyone can surely connect with the reflections on queer romance from longing to lust.

In Entertainment

Horror Films to Scare You Straight

With my love of performance, costumes, and goth, Halloween is definitely my favorite holiday. It doesn’t hurt that it comes just days after my birthday. If you’re looking for the gayest way to celebrate the season, here are a few horror films of the homosexual persuasion. I’m still trying to get through all of them, so consider this a sort of living list.

Actually Gay

Otto; or Up with Dead People

Directed by: Bruce LaBruce

Synopsis: Otto is a handsome zombie in the middle of an identity crisis when he auditions for a zombie film.

Standouts: With the freshest looking zombies that somehow coexist with humans, this low budget film offers a few humorous moments of camp with a maniacal guerilla filmmaker and one character who inexplicably is a film projection of a silent movie actress.

Why you should watch it: You have a love for the truly bizarre.

Where you can see it: Amazon video, Tubi


Hellbent

Directed by: Paul Etheredge-Ouzts

Synopsis: A group of gays celebrate Halloween by checking out a recent murder scene. They’re followed by a serial killer who’s been terrorizing West Hollywood and soon moves onto them.

Standouts: This movie stocks up on eye candy with a gay for pay cast of hunks and a leather daddy villain with a glass eye fetish.

Why you should watch it: It’s a seriously fun slasher from the early aughts.

Where you can see it: Amazon video


You’re Killing Me

Directed by: Jim Hansen

Starring: Matthew Wilkas, Matthew McKelligon, James Cerne

Synopsis: George starts dating a handsome new man, who comes out as a serial killer.

Standouts: Gratuitous shirtlessness.

Why you should watch it: It’s worth a few laughs.

Where you can see it: YouTubeAmazon videoiTunes


Homoerotic

The Covenant

Directed by: Renny Harlin

Starring: Taylor Kitsch, Chace Crawford, Sebastian Stan

Synopsis: It’s basically a male version of the Craft.

Standouts: Shirtlessness.

Why you should watch it: You probably shouldn’t. Or maybe hit the mute button and listen to my Halloween playlist.

Where you can see it: YouTubeAmazon video, iTunes


The Forsaken

Directed by: J. S. Cardone

Synopsis: On a cross country trip, Sean picks up a hitchhiker who he learns is a vampire hunter. The pair soon cross paths with a vampire crew eager to make them their next meal.

Standouts: The bromance between heroes Sean and Nick.

Why you should watch it: The cast is packed with late 90s/early 00s teen idol hunks.

Where you can see it: YouTubeAmazon videoiTunes


A Nightmare on Elm Street 2

Directed by: Jack Sholder

Synopsis: Much like the original, Freddy Krueger terrorizes teenagers by entering their dreams.

Standouts: The high school coach meets his untimely demise in a suspect leather club.

Why you should watch it: Freddy Krueger is a classic horror film villain. What have you got to lose?

Where you can see it: YouTubeAmazon videoiTunes


Camp

Fear No Evil

Directed by: Frank LaLoggia

Synopsis: A flamboyant teenage boy discovers that he’s the antichrist.

Standouts: TBH, I had a difficult time finding a standout moment.

Why you should watch it: Maybe don’t.

Where you can see it: DailyMotion


Fright Night

Directed by: Tom Holland

Synopsis: A teenage boy discovers his flamboyant neighbor is a vampire but no one will believe him.

Standouts:

Why you should watch it:

Where you can see it: Hulu


The Brotherhood

Directed by: David DeCoteau

Synopsis: Two friends join a gothic fraternity of vampires.

Standouts:

Why you should watch it:

Where you can see it: Amazon video


Sapphic Scares

The Hunger

Directed by: Tony Scott

Starring: Catherine Deneuve, David Bowie, Susan Sarandon

Synopsis: Susan Sarandon plays a sleep and aging research doctor who finds herself in a love triangle with a chic vampire couple.

Standouts: The movie opens with a goth club scene that will have you clamoring for an all black wardrobe.

Why you should watch it: Aside from the sapphic vampire storyline, you’ll actually enjoy the film.

Where you can see it: YouTubeAmazon videoiTunes


In Travel

How to Stay Friends on Your Gaycation

Going on vacation is always better when you’re rolling with your gaggle of gays. I like to think of myself as an expert traveler, so here are my tips for keeping your friendships intact on a group excursion.

Be free

Keeping your crew together at all times is impossible. With a large group, remember that everyone will have different priorities and interests. The shower show at the local gay bar might not be everyone’s cup of tea. Be flexible and understanding. Don’t be a drag by insisting that everybody stay together.

Make some solid plans

Of course you should definitely schedule a few group activities, though. Before setting out on your trip, agree as a whole on a few things that everyone can get into. Even if it just means making a dinner reservation for the entire group. And you’ll want to make reservations to avoid waiting on a table for five on a busy Saturday night.

Leave no man behind

It’s easy to get distracted in a group setting, but always make sure everyone is accounted for. Nothing makes someone feel more left out than being forgotten when the group heads out. Make an agreement with your bestie to always keep track of each other.

Count it out

The easiest way to ruin a good vacation is squabbling over costs. If you can agree to split costs more or less evenly, you can simplify by taking turns covering payments and settling up at the end of the trip. Lay out the rules from the beginning and get ready to play the Splitwise game. Pro tip: Input your expenses immediately so you don’t forget and you tag the appropriate people.

Get personal

Even though you’re in a group setting, it’s important to get personal with all of your friends individually. I like to make sure I sit next to a different person at every meal or gathering. During down time, I’ll choose a different friend to hang out with. The worst feeling is getting home from a group trip and feeling like you barely even spoke to a friend you rarely see.

Communicate

Before setting out on your adventure, set up a group chat and hype each other up. It’ll heighten your excitement and bring the gang together emotionally before you’ve even arrived. It’ll also be super convenient for communicating while you’re traveling. While you’re at it, create a shared album and upload your pics throughout the trip.

Need some inspiration for your next big gaycation? Check out videos from my own group trips to Provincetown and Marfa, TX.